Relationship Patterns Test
Explore ten patterns around closeness, care, worry and vulnerability. See the answers behind each score and choose the reflections that feel useful to you.
Ten separate relationship patterns, with preliminary research support. Results are for reflection, not diagnosis. Research sharing is optional.
What you’ll learn
Understand the scores before you start. They describe your responses, not everything about you or your relationships.
You’ll see ten separate patterns, including seeking connection, keeping distance, caring for others and getting caught up in worries. A compact overview links to each pattern’s explanation, five contributing answers and optional reflections.
Each score is read separately. The biggest raw number is not automatically your strongest or most unusual trait.
A look at your results
An illustration of the format—not a prediction of your scores or a comparison with other people.
An individual pattern score, followed by the five answers behind it. Each pattern has its own score; there is no combined result or population ranking.
Before you begin
Answer from your own experience
Choose how much you agree with each statement, thinking about your usual experience. When a statement refers to your upbringing, answer about that experience. When it refers to a partner, think about your romantic relationships generally. There are no right answers. If you cannot answer from experience or prefer not to answer, you can skip it.
Choose from 1 · Strongly disagree to 6 · Strongly agree. There is no neutral position. Each pattern needs all five answers to be scored.
You can skip any statement without explaining why. Some statements concern upbringing or difficult relationship behaviours.
Optional research sharing
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Before you take the test
A few practical questions about suitability, skipped answers and privacy.
Can I take this while single?
Yes. Answer from your own experience. You can skip partner statements you cannot answer; any pattern with a missing answer stays unscored.
What happens if I skip a statement?
You can skip any statement. Each pattern needs all five of its answers before it is scored. Other completed patterns can still be shown. Missing answers are never estimated.
Are my answers saved?
Your working answers stay in this browser page. If you explicitly agree to research sharing, a versioned copy of your responses, order, completion and scores is sent to private encrypted research storage. Otherwise no answers are uploaded. Research contributions are not saved account results. You can print a personal copy either way.
Does this give me a fixed attachment style?
No. Your results show ten separate relationship-pattern scores. They are not combined into an attachment-style label, diagnosis or compatibility rating.
How long does it take?
There are 50 statements. There is no time limit. Reading and reflection time varies, so take it at your own pace. You can go back and edit answers before or after seeing results.
Research, sources and limitations
The published questions come from the Attachment Defenses Questionnaire by Richardson, Beath and Boag. Its research support is preliminary. The published wording and verified scoring are retained; participant guidance, interface and reflections are disclosed adaptations.
Version 3.2.0 · Neither test establishes childhood events, another person’s attachment or relationship compatibility. Read the evidence and use conditions.
Explore attachment before you start
Read a guide, or go straight to the statements when you feel ready.
Your experience of connection
Choose how much you agree. Answer statements about upbringing from that experience; answer partner statements about your romantic relationships generally.
You can go back and change an answer. Skipped statements stay unanswered; we do not guess a response.
Your relationship-pattern profile
Ten windows into connection
These scores describe how you answered each group of five statements. Take the parts that help you understand your experience.
This questionnaire has preliminary research support. The participant guidance, explanations and reflection prompts are locally written and have not been independently evaluated with participants. Scores are not population norms or diagnoses.
Read the numbers as a starting point
A larger score means your answers express more of that named pattern, after reverse scoring. It does not tell us how unusual it is, what caused it, or whether it is a problem for you.
Read each scale separately. A higher number on one scale does not necessarily make it your strongest or most unusual pattern.
With this version’s 1–6 response coding, each scale is a sum from 5 to 30. We also show its average from 1 to 6 for convenience. There is no overall score or attachment-style category.
Some patterns have missing answers. They remain unscored; completed patterns are shown below.
Keep your circumstances in view
A need for space, care or reassurance can make sense in your situation. These scores do not decide whether a relationship is safe, establish what happened in childhood, or tell you what another person is like.
“Parentification” is the paper’s name for a group of statements about upbringing. Your responses record your recollections; they do not verify childhood events. The other scale names describe patterns, not identities or diagnoses.
Review or edit your answers
A different perspective
The Attachment Style Test explores romantic attachment anxiety and avoidance. It measures different constructs, so its scores are not interchangeable with these ten scores.
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Make sense of your results
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Your research contribution
Research sharing is optional. Your results work without it.
A contribution is a private research record, not a saved account result. Keep the reference above if you share. Research privacy and retention.
How these results were made
Each scale totals five answers after reversing the nine statements marked R in the published table. The response coding, endpoint labels and factor formulas are confirmed by the author’s thesis. No missing answers are estimated. The averages, descriptive titles and reflection questions are added for this interface.
The development evidence remains preliminary. This adaptation and its feedback have not been independently evaluated with participants. Its participant guidance is locally written; the complete original instruction script was not found.